Setting Goals for the New Year
When the new year rolls around, we all have our to-do list of goals that we hope to accomplish. New year, new you, right? Setting intentions is vital because despite being an aspirational act that we can only hope to follow through on, it provides a sense of control over what’s happening in your life and a healthy framework and further clarity for the year ahead. It takes you out of your comfort zone in the best way possible.
Still, no one said that accomplishing your goals was easy. In fact, it can be pretty intimidating and overwhelming at times. So, how can you break down that looming list of New Years resolution ideas into a more approachable goal setting process?
You can do several things to make any New Year resolution an act of self-empowerment.
What New Year’s resolution should you set?
Setting a fitness goal is one of the smartest ways to turn over a new leaf for the upcoming year. Beyond getting fit for aesthetic purposes, prioritizing your health can positively impact your mental state of being, sleep, and stress levels. Another aspect of wellness that can always be improved is your sex life. Masturbation and sex can also burn calories, and many experts would argue that orgasms have the same effects as physical exercise and eating healthy on the mind and body.
Fitness goals for 2024
Setting fitness goals can create a domino effect for the rest of your life. A stronger body means a stronger mind and higher self-esteem. Want to run a marathon? Start with a jog every day and work on increasing pace, frequency, and duration over time. If you like the idea of cardio but running doesn’t sound fun, taking a dance or HIIT class (there are plenty of free resources on YouTube as well) can be a great way to get those endorphins going.
Increasing strength or flexibility are very popular New Year resolution ideas that can lend to your longevity. If you don’t have access to a gym, strength can be achieved by using resistance bands or dumbbells at home. Be sure to work your way up slowly in no more than five-pound increments weekly to avoid injuries.
Increasing flexibility can be done in all sorts of ways and has benefits that last a lifetime. Consider taking a pilates or yoga class or doing a short daily stretch when you wake up or wind down for the evening.
|Make your goals more approachable by increasing intensity or frequency weekly, starting once or twice a week and working up to three or four.
Even if you’re a total beginner to fitness, you can start with 10,000 steps a day and amp up intensity with brisker walks or hikes.
Sexual health goal setting for 2024
Working out isn’t the only way to get those endorphins flowing in the new year. Orgasms are a perfectly achievable (and liberating) goal to work towards and can help you feel more physically satisfied. They can help put you in a better mood, produce more melatonin in your body to help with sleep, and even help with the stress of burnout that we can all face from work. You can have more (or better) orgasms during partnered sex or masturbation.
Some questions to ask yourself when reflecting on your sexual wellness intentions might include:
- Are you happy with your current sex life?
- What are sexual activities, accessories or kinks you would like to try out?
- Are you satisfied with your current relationship dynamic?
- Do you feel any shame or stigma surrounding sex that you'd like to work on?
Maybe this is the year to try out BDSM, sex toys, or anal play if that’s something you’ve always fantasized about. Or perhaps it’s learning that sex isn’t always about the destination, but the journey as well. Orgasms aren’t the only end goal—pleasure and connection can be achieved this way, too, and sometimes anorgasmia can disappear once you start alleviating that pressure.
Honor your body and allow yourself to experiment with new things in the new year, but remaining 100% honest with yourself and your partner is one of the most important things you can continue to do throughout your plan. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want, whether it’s in the bedroom or a bigger picture idea, like considering polyamory over traditional relationship models.
How sex toys can help you reach your sexual wellness goals
Best sex toys to use on your own
For clitoral and all-over stimulation
A less bulky version of the famous Hitachi wand, this micro-wand massager is the most powerful vibrator out there for people who love deep and rumbly vibes. It can be used on erogenous zones or to relax tense muscles and prep you for the big O.
For better vibrations
While your reliable hand can always get you there, slipping on this finger vibrator can make things much more explosive. The strap can be placed around fingers or panties, and while it’s great for solo play can also be used with a partner during sex.
This powerful masturbation sleeve is so much better than a Fleshlight. With a touch of a button, you can get vibrated, sucked, thrust, or all of the above for an experience that’ll make your eyes roll back in your head.
Best sex toys to use with a partner
A clit stimulating cock ring
Wearing a c-ring often means a longer session and a harder erection. With the addition of some delicious vibrating bunny ears, it also means guaranteed orgasms for her — on land or underwater.
For stronger orgasms
Using Kegel balls regularly can make sex with a partner so much better. A stronger pelvic floor means a tighter grip and stronger orgasms, making the perfect gift for both of you.
A wearable vibrator
This wearable vibe hits both the g-spot and the clitoris during sex, giving the gift of multiple (and simultaneous) orgasms in the new year. It’s the perfect hands-free option for steamy moments.
What goals will you set for the new year?
Whether you focus on sexual wellness or fitness goal setting, don’t be afraid to think outside the box. You can achieve whatever you put your mind to, and most importantly, don’t be too hard on yourself or set overly ambitious goals. Remember that commitment and consistency are key. It doesn’t matter how far you’ve come—just that you haven’t given up.