How to Train Your Dragon: Masturbating to Help Your Sexual Performances
As trusty as your hand can be, do you ever find yourself wondering, “how can I take my masturbation to the next level?” If you find yourself in a self-pleasure rut or simply want to try something new, you can use plenty of techniques and toys to upgrade your solo time. Masturbation has tons of health benefits like relieving tension, elevating mood, and releasing feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, but it’s also a powerful tool to improve your sex life.
How does masturbation help your sex life?
Practice pays off when it comes to knowing what you like. No one knows you better than yourself; experimenting with different forms of self-pleasure helps you learn more about where and how you like to be touched. In turn, it helps you better communicate your pleasure zones and how to approach them with a partner, leading to a better sexual experience. Plus, there’s nothing sexier than a confident man who has no shame talking about his body.
How masturbating increases stamina and libido
A lot of guys see jacking off as an afterthought when you’re bored and lonely. However, it’s an important wellness ritual just like going to the gym or prepping your meals for the week. Besides making your body feel great, it can have benefits for your partner.
“Pre-bating” is when you masturbate before having sex later. By getting that first orgasm out of the way, you can feel more in control, relaxed, and confident with your partner, preparing yourself for a night of pleasuring someone else later on.
This goes for both men and women—while the most famous pop culture instance of a man pre-bating is the notorious movie “There’s Something About Mary,” in which Ben Stiller’s character pre-bates to ease his nervousness, Logan Browning’s character on “Dear White People” did the same thing more recently. Her reason, however, was, as her BFF put it, "when you take care of yourself so you don't lose your mind in the company of problematic dick.”
That said, if your goal is actually to enjoy sex later on rather than to avoid it, pre-bating can release the sexual tension that would otherwise make you climax too quickly. It can also cause a shift in hormone levels to slow down a sex drive along with the time it takes to orgasm. Just make sure you give your body enough recovery time before going at it again. Beyond relaxing you and boosting confidence, masturbating regularly can help you avoid premature ejaculation.
Climax control techniques
Instead of jumping the gun with medication, there are several ways that you can practice climax control during sex or masturbation.
Edging
Edging is when you control or delay orgasm so that you get a better pleasure payoff when you eventually climax. Along with resulting in a better orgasm, this stop-start act also allows you to please your partner for longer. Consider practicing edging alone first: stop masturbating just as you’re about to reach orgasm. Then, wait a few minutes before you begin again. Repeat as many times as you want until you want to climax.
Take it slow
Going too fast is a sure route to premature ejaculation. Instead, take your time with slower, more mindful sex, either with your hand, a sex toy, or a partner. Change up strokes and pressure. Slow, deep breathing is also key to holding off on coming. To ensure maximum comfort, be sure to use lube when implementing this strategy.
Use a delay spray
If you’re still finding that you’re ejaculating too fast, even with the above tactics, a delay spray for climax control can help. These topicals have anesthetics such as benzocaine or lidocaine that are frequently used for premature ejaculation and performance anxiety. Available in wipes, creams or sprays, delay topicals can increase control and male sexual performance while reducing distress—at least according to this study.
Using toys for better stamina
Another way to last longer and improve both stamina and male sexual performance (while enhancing pleasure) is by using sex toys for men, and there are way more options than sex dolls and replicas of pornstars' vaginas. Strokers can be major game-changers for boosting sensation and practicing stamina training. There are tons of male sex trainers, from manual sleeves like Fleshlights; to electronic masturbators like the HUNG UFO Deep Space Male Trainer; to AI-powered blowjob machines like Autoblow A.I.+, which offers a hands-free session.
Whether you’re using these toys alone or adding them into foreplay with a partner to enhance a handjob or blowjob, these intimate devices are also fantastic ways to practice edging. Using penis pumps can increase blood flow, helping users achieve or maintain an erection for longer.
Every toy offers a different sensation and benefits, so do your research, and no matter what you decide, be generous with the lubricant.
To wrap things up
By combining these tactics and exploring male sex trainers, you can enhance your sexual experience and increase stamina in the bedroom. Beyond these tips, getting enough sleep, exercising, eating well, and communicating with your partner can increase satisfaction and maximize your self-care routine.