The Male G-Spot How To Have A Prostate Orgasm
Did you know that cisgender men have their very own g-spot? The male g-spot is known as the prostate, aka the p-spot. Although it’s much-discussed, many people are still wondering: what is the prostate? It’s a gland about the size of a walnut and is located a couple of inches inside the rectum, directly beneath the bladder.
While its function is to produce seminal fluid and provide a place for sperm to thrive even after ejaculation, it can also offer some mind-blowing sensations that many men have never experienced before.
Finding your prostate is easy and can be done externally or internally based on what you prefer. For internal stimulation, a clean, lubed-up finger can enter the anus. For external stimulation, the perineum, or the stretch of skin between the anus and the scrotum, can be massaged. Some men might prefer more indirect stimulation from massaging the outside, while others enjoy penetration for a more intense form of pleasure.
What does a p-gasm feel like?
A prostate orgasm can provide a deeper and fuller experience than a penile orgasm, which is part of why it’s referred to as the male g-spot. Many describe it as an intense, full-body sensation, while others describe it as a deep quivering with a more explosive finish than a penile stimulation can provide. The sensation can differ based on whether you’re being massaged internally or externally and whether prostate toys or fingers are being used.
How to stimulate the prostate
The prostate can be stimulated by a partner or alone during masturbation—you just have to find the right angle! Insert a finger into the anus up to the first knuckle until the prostate tissue is located. The finger should point towards the belly button, ideally. To stimulate it from the outside via the perineum, put pressure on the perineum with a finger (or fingers). You may want to urinate before since the p-spot is so close to the bladder.
Prostate milking is when one rubs the prostate until a fluid called prostatic fluid comes out. This milky liquid is essentially cum without the sperm and can be an indicator that you’re close to prostate orgasm.
Prostate milking is also said to have multiple health benefits, which we’ll dive into later. When targeting the prostate, don’t be afraid to experiment and see what kind of stimulation you prefer, but don’t forget to be gentle and add lube. It can be done in several positions—the receiving partner can lie facedown with a pillow under the hips or get massaged in doggy style. They can also lay on their side and lift a leg to their chest to provide access to the anus.
Toys to use for stimulation of the p-spot
What is the prostate pleasure product that’s right for you? Prostate toys come in all shapes and sizes and have a variety of functions and designs. There are options without a motor and options with a motor that combines different vibration strengths, patterns, or movements.
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Always add lube, no matter what toy you use and how experienced you are. Not sure how much to use? Products like HUNG Glaze Snap + Slide™ Silicone Lube are long-lasting and come in single sachets with pre-measured lubricant that let you use just the right amount. Opt for a thick oil-based or water-based lube designed for anal use if you’re playing with a silicone toy.
Multi-Vibes: motorized toys like the Velvet Hammer provide external or internal stimulation or let you explore both at once with the addition of thumping and thrusting modes. They can also be used on vulva owners, making this a versatile, full-coverage toy for couples. It’s swollen at the tip to really target the p-spot, and the broad base covers the perineum perfectly.
Strapless p-spot vibrators: who needs a harness? This prostate massage stays in place, stimulating the giver and the receiver. The base also provides incredible perineum stimulation. It comes with a remote control, allowing you to easily change settings during use without interrupting a session.
Thrusting/rotating probes: vibration isn’t the only way to stimulate the prostate. This silicone probe is on the thicker side, making it better for those who have experience with fingers or smaller toys and want to try something girthier. It flexes, pulses, rotates, and thrusts with its 12 functions, simulating a partner’s touch.
Waterproof massagers: if you’re looking for length, this velvety vibrator has up to seven inches of it, with ridges to provide added prostate stimulation. It’s 100% waterproof. What could be more relaxing than settling down in a warm bath with a partner and this toy?
Prostate milkers: designed to milk the prostate, this toy is designed for p-spot owners and masters that “come here” massage motion internally with its curved tip as the base provides delicious perineum stimulation at the same time.
How to give a prostate massage
For external massage, add lube to the perineum and rub a thumb or other fingers with gentle pressure. This can be combined with a handjob or blowjob. For internal stimulation, enter a lubed-up finger a couple of inches and locate the prostate tissue, which will feel like a rounded bulb.
Move the finger in a “come hither” motion against the prostate. Remember to ask the receiver what feels good regarding speed, depth, or pressure. Once you’re more experienced in accessing and stimulating the p-spot, you can move on to experiment with prostate massagers or milkers and even strap-ons to explore pegging.
Health benefits of prostate massage
Releasing fluids from the prostate doesn’t just feel good—it has health benefits! Massage of the prostate dates back to the late 19th century when doctors did it to treat an inflamed prostate, otherwise known as prostatitis. Massaging the prostate can help clear a urinary tract obstruction or pain during ejaculation, some of which can be caused by a prostate blockage.
Beyond treating prostatitis, It may also help create more effective urinary flow. And, of course, the obvious benefit: it increases your pleasure tenfold!
An important PSA
Not everyone orgasms from having their prostate milked! Although finding your prostate and knowing how to massage it can be an incredible add-on to your sex life if you’re looking to spice things up, don’t be ashamed if you don’t achieve it. You might need more foreplay, different positions, a new kind of toy, or a larger amount of lube. And even if you don’t climax this way, the sensation could be incredible. Sexual pleasure is about the journey, not the destination, and this is a rest stop that you’ll be glad you visited regardless!