How to Ride a Dildo Like a Rodeo Queen

You’ve set the mood, queued up a steamy playlist, and there’s your new toy—ready for action! But then you hop on, and … riding isn’t quite as smooth as you pictured. 

Suddenly, you’re wondering, where do your hands go? Are your knees always this wobbly? And don’t get us started on the real-life challenge of adding another set of limbs to the mix. 

Despite what it looks like when your favorite star makes it seem effortless, struggling a bit is totally normal. The trick? Finding the right position, adding a sprinkle of practice, and voilà—you’re set! 

Plus, getting the hang of how to ride a dildo is seriously fun practice for sex with a partner. If you've ever felt a bit awkward or uncertain, know you’re not alone. Here’s your go-to guide for riding like a true rodeo queen! 

Size and style matter

To ride a dildo like a pro is half skill, half the tool you’re working with. Yes, not all dildo sex toys are created equal, so let’s look at choosing the best steed in terms of material, shape, texture, and, of course, stability. 

Material 

Put the glass dildo down, hun. You’re only going to hurt yourself. You want to use a toy made of high-quality, body-safe silicone or firm rubber because these materials have just the right amount of “give” without being too soft or rigid. 

Plus, they feel realistic, which is way more fun if not comfortable. 

Texture and shape 

A smooth silicone dildo works just fine. But if you want a little more sensation, choose a textured dildo with veins, ridges, or bumps. They’re sure to elevate your experience. 

Some dildo shapes are also naturally angled for G-spot or prostate stimulation, which makes for a simpler learning curve and very intense sensations once you get the hang of how to ride your dildo. 

A sturdy base 

This may be last but is certainly not the least to look for. A solid base is a must if you want stability, whether you’re riding on a bed or against your shower wall.

Suction dildos are ideal for hands-free riding, so you can keep your balance without worrying about the toy slipping or tipping. Nobody wants that when you’re on the brink of the big “O”, so make sure your dildo is firmly attached to a smooth, flat surface before you get going. 

No suction cup? Try a strap-on that you can secure around something stable, like a pole, rolled-up yoga mat, or other sturdy item. Remember, the key here is stability!

Getting the saddle ready 

Setting yourself up properly makes all the difference when learning how to ride a dildo. Once you know what you’re doing, all that’s left is to enjoy the experience!

Start with a high-quality, body-safe sexual lubricant. Friction can build up quickly, and a generous amount of lube will help keep things smooth and comfortable. Remember to use a lube that’s compatible with your dildo’s material. For example, water-based lubes are the best for silicone dildos. 

Next, the warm-up 

Think of this as stretching before a workout. Actually, learning how to ride a dildo is quite the workout. This step will get your body relaxed and responsive.

Do some gentle stretching, foreplay, and use smaller toys to get in the right headspace and help your muscles loosen up. 

Finally, choose your position with intention. Riding a dildo takes a bit of muscle engagement, so settle into a stance that feels stable. 

Kneeling or straddling might be more comfortable if you’re on a bed or cushioned surface. And if you’re going to have your fun in the shower, always make sure the surface is non-slip. 

Positions and techniques 

Now, let’s get down to business! Mastering how to ride a dildo is all about, one: finding the positions that work for your body and two: dialing in on those pleasure angles. 

To start, position your body close enough to the toy for easy maneuvering. This gives you the control you need to explore your rhythm, whether it’s a low squat, kneeling stance, or even standing. 

Next, take the time to get comfortable before the ride. You should be focused on fun, not fumbling! Let’s start with some of the classics: 

1. Cowgirl (or “riding on top”) 

This position lets you ride your dildo with easy control. 

Straddle your toy facing forward and use your thighs to move rhythmically up and down or move your hips forward and back. Lean slightly forward to target your G-spot, or shift your hips back to push your dildo in deeper for a fuller feeling. 

Don’t stop there—adjust your body to play around with different depths and angles. Remember, learning how to ride a dildo is mostly about discovering what hits your sweet spots. Here, you can use your hands for support or balance by holding onto a sturdy headboard or pressing your knees against the bed.

2. Reverse cowgirl

The other classic but more intense position is when turned around and facing away. Position yourself above your dildo and use your hand to guide it in, tilting your pelvis just a bit forward so that it grazes against your G-spot. 

Move slowly until you find a rhythm you’re comfortable with, then experiment with different speeds and motions, like up-and-down or circular movements, to discover what brings you the most pleasure.

Once you’re comfortable, try freeing one hand to play with yourself or even use a clit vibrator—the combination will blow your mind!

3. The wall rider 

Another position that’s quite easy when learning how to ride a dildo is doggy-style riding against the wall. 

Use a suction-cup dildo on the shower wall or any smooth, vertical surface. Then, standing or squatting with your back against the wall, ease yourself onto the toy at your own pace. 

This position gives you an intense, upright experience and is fantastic for clitoral stimulation since you’re hands-free and can explore freely. 

4. The rocking chair 

For a more relaxing ride, lie back with your dildo positioned upright between your legs— suctioned to a surface or secured with a strap. Then, rock your hips forward and backward as you control the depth and pressure. 

This position is a sure bet if you’re experimenting with how to ride a dildo because it’s easy to target the G-spot and play around with your rhythm for longer.

5. Face down, booty up 

This positioning is no different when doing it with a partner. Only here, you’ll ride a dildo that goes as long as you want. Perfect! 

Lie face down on a bed or soft surface with the dildo positioned beneath you, and move back until it’s comfortably inserted in your vagina. 

Start by gently rocking back and forth, building up a slow rhythm to create deep sensations just the way you like it, then use the weight of your body to adjust the pressure as you grind against the dildo. 

A bonus of this position is that it stimulates your clitoris, too. So make sure to slather on the lube for less friction. Pro tip: a warming lube will do wonders for your playtime!

Know your angles 

Experimenting with angles is everything when learning how to ride a dildo; it’s where the magic happens! This is because shifting your weight or arching your back directs the dildo toward different spots. 

Go slow, explore each shift, and take mental notes on which angles feel best for you. 

If possible, try riding your dildo in front of a mirror. Watching yourself in action will show you what’s working while also helping you connect with your muscle movements. Eventually, you’ll gain more control and confidence to experiment with different rhythms and positions. 

With all these positions, the most important tips for how to ride a dildo are: Start slow, focus on small, controlled movements, and gradually build up to a pace that feels right for you. Have fun discovering what positions and techniques hit your sweet spots! 

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Now that you're ready to ride like a pro, it’s time to find the perfect dildo to match your skills! 

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